How We Work

Here you can get a sense of how we work, our guiding beliefs and what makes us unique as a practice. We also describe the benefits and results you can expect when you work with Transformative Parenting.

:: Our Process

We offer a comprehensive, whole-system approach to creating solutions to behavioral or relationship problems at home or at school.

Rather than offering solutions based only on symptoms, we help you to see the whole picture. We put the problems in a context that helps them make better sense.

With this new understanding and approach, you will no longer endlessly shift from one problem or crisis to another. We’ll help you to create change and growth that will last.

We understand that your family is unique and we customize services and solutions that make sense for you. We listen to you and find out what’s important to you, what your values are, and what you want to change. We then come up with a personalized strategy to make those changes happen.

We do not judge you or your family no matter what your situation or circumstances. It is not important to us what mistakes you think you may have made or how your kids may be acting out. It is only important to us that you are able to turn things around and become the parent you’ve always wanted to be.

:: Our Guiding Beliefs

We believe that parents can truly change the world and that our role is to help them do it. It’s easy to look around and only see what is wrong with the world, from violence and aggression in our schools to the inability of so many to have any kind of loving, caring relationship. We believe that much of this suffering can be transformed through right relationships between parents and children.

We believe that difficulties can be the keys to transformation and should be understood and embraced, not avoided. So often we run from what we’re afraid of or feel shame or guilt about what we see as our shortcomings or faults. When we realize that the things most difficult for us in life usually contain the seeds of our positive change and transformation, it can really change our perspective and open us up to new possibilities in life.

We believe that kids need to be allowed to be kids and their unique potential needs to be allowed to flourish and grow. Too often in our dealings with our children, we treat them like miniature adults and assume they understand the world the same way we do. Kids are not adults and will never mature properly if not protected and held on to, emotionally as well as physically.

We believe that parenting can be a whole lot more rewarding and a lot less stressful and that parents deserve to have their needs met as well. Parenting does require sacrifice at times, but it doesn’t mean you have to give up your self or the things that are important to you.

:: Results You Can Expect

Here are results you can expect when you work with us.

:: Parents

When you work with us you should expect noticeable and long-lasting positive changes in how you relate with your children and, more importantly, how your children relate to you. You will reassert your role as the most important person in their lives and they will look to you, and not to their friends or popular culture, for guidance and support.

When you work with us you should expect to experience more confidence and ease as a parent knowing that the way you parent is based on your values and your child’s unique personality and needs. You will not have to look outside yourself for the answers; the answers will more and more come from inside.

When you work with us you should expect to have a growing sense of awareness about yourself, your children, and all your important relationships. This will help guide you to make the best decisions for you and your family and feel less like a victim of circumstances.

When you work with us you should experience a greater sense of strength and perspective to weather the hard times that invariably happen in life, including big transitions and crises. You won’t always be able to avoid problems in life, but you will no longer let them consume you.

:: What Makes Us Unique

We are experienced with working with the whole family to solve problems and provide tools for successful living. While we now work primarily with parents, our years of experience working with children and families helps us be more effective in solving difficult issues.

We offer the best of the worlds of counseling and consulting with an emphasis on the needs of parents and their children. Our team is deeply experienced and highly regarded in our work in counseling, psychotherapy, social work, and consulting. We use the very best tools and practices from these fields in our Transformative Parenting practice. We focus on the present and potential, not on the past and dysfunction.

Our unique backgrounds and skill sets, combined with a powerful philosophy for transforming families, cannot be found anywhere else.

We offer both personalized options as well as groups and courses. Our approach involves both education and personal consultation so that you can get the support you need.

Next, learn about our Services.